Facebook

If you've been TTC for a long time with no progress and you use Facebook, then you know all too well that Facebook can be evil. There is always someone posting status updates about every kick (worse if they are complaining about being pregnant), someone posting their u/s images or someone with the all so evil BabyGaga App.

I hate you BabyGaga!!!. . . For now.

 It's common knowledge that these things cause a lot of pain and misery to those of us who have been TTC for a while. I try not to hide people on facebook unless the baby mania becomes so frequent that I can't sign in to Facebook without having it shoved in my face. I recently read that Facebook has added a new feature in the "Friends and Family" section when you go to edit your profile. It allows you to add that you are expecting and what your due date is.

Facebook's new Friends and Family addition.

 I was telling my husband that I was glad, because when we FINALLY do get pregnant, I wanted to post on my profile that I was expecting like you could on Myspace. He then asked me a question that made me think. He asked if I was going to post a lot of status updates, pictures and app updates when we get pregnant, despite the fact that some of my friends on Facebook are still TTC.

 Now If we are honest with ourselves, the reason it bothers us so much is because we envy them, we want to be able to do the same thing, but we can't. We want to feel what they are feeling as they type that status message so badly, but we can't. I told my husband, yes I would absolutely post status updates,  use the BabyGaga app,  and post pictures.

 This may sound insensitive, but hear me out. When ( because I will ) I find out I'm Pregnant, then I'm going to announce it on my Facebook with a warning to ALL my Facebook friends. I will then refrain from posting anything about babies for 24 hours. Why 24 hours? I'll give you an example of what this status' of mine might look like below:

ATTENTION FACEBOOK FRIENDS WHO ARE TTC
I am happy to announce we are FINALLY Pregnant! As some of you know, this has taken us 4 years! This status' is to warn everyone that I will be posting frequent status updates, pictures and app updates regarding my pregnancy. I know how painful this can be and I mean no harm and don't wish to be insensitive to those who are still TTC. After so long of TTC and having to endure so much on Facebook myself I feel I have EARNED this right!. That is why I am giving everyone a chance right now to HIDE my posts. I will not be upset, I COMPLETELY understand! You have 24 hours to hide me before the baby fest commences! Wishing everyone the best and lots of baby dust!

 Don't get me wrong everyone has the right to be happy about their pregnancies and want to share it with their friends and family. but dealing with Infertility I have to say it doesn't bother me as much; if I know the person didn't just pop up pregnant right away or had one of those "SURPRISE!" pregnancies. If they tried for months and months and months, or especially years . . . then chances are they've had to painfully endure someone Else's Facebook updates and I feel they have EARNED the chance to do what they have so longed to do for a long time.

I think it's only wrong if you were to get angry or offended at one of your friends because they had you hidden when you know they are TTC and that your updates are hurting them.

 I welcome anyone Else's thoughts or opinions on the matter. If you've been TTC for a long time, would you post frequent status updates on your Facebook?